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A Great Example of Building A Legacy

Hey folks,

I came across this article today and wanted to pass it along.  This couple has lived a long time together and has built a legacy.  Notice what they said was the key (their faith in Jesus).

Marriage Legacy

What are you doing to build a multigenerational legacy of abundance?

Episode-94- The Father as a Priest In His Home

Join me for today's show where I talk about the role of the father as a priest in his home.  Learn about the three roles of a priest (a worship leader, a consecrated example, and an intercessor) and how these three roles can be played out in the context of ones home and family.

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Episode-90- The Father as a Prophet to His Home

In this show I talk about the role of the father as prophet.  A prophet of God is one who speaks God's Word with faith and persuasion.  As such, the father is to speak to his family God's message for them with faith and persuasion.  This can be done in many way in this show I talk about 6 of them.  In other words here are six ways or means being a prophet to your family.

  1. Family Devotions
  2. Times of Correction/discipline
  3. Home Education
  4. Everyday Life
  5. Times of Warning
  6. Through Illustrations

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Episode-85- The Father as King of His Home

The father is to serve in his family as King, Prophet, and Priest.  In this show you will hear some ways in which the father can exercise his role as king in his home.  Join me as we look at 5 ways the father does this.

  1. The father leads his family
  2. The father provides for his family
  3. The father protects his family
  4. The father is policy maker and enforcer for his family

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Episode-78- Financial Capital

In this show  I talk about the third of eight forms of capital identified by Ethan C. Roland of Appleseed Permaculture which is Financial Capital.  Join me as I talk about:

  • What is Financial Capital?
  • What are some examples Financial Capital?
  • Why is it important to have Financial Capital?
  • How do we acquire more Financial Capital?
  • What steps should we take?

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Episode-74- Nine Things We Need to Bring Home


The typical American family buys a huge house but spends little time in it.  This is because we have gradually delegated away and outsourced many of the activities that are suppose to be done in the home.  In this show I discuss nine of these activities that need to be brought home.  Join me as a discuss the following:

  • Work
  • Education
  • Cooking
  • Food Production
  • Hospitality
  • Church
  • Outreach
  • Exercise
  • Care for the Aged

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Episode-68- Principles for Order in the Home

In this episode you will hear a short discussion about sixteen principles that we try to follow in our home to keep order.  Many of these principles are direct applications from the ten commands and others are general biblical principles.  Some of them are simply practical.  My goal is that you take these and adapt them to your home to help order your household.  The sixteen principles discussed are:

  1. You will seek the Glory God above all else.
  2. You will be treated to the level of your displayed maturity
  3. You will reap what we sow.
  4. You will be responsible for your own and others property that you use.
  5. You will speak the truth to one another in love.
  6. You will complete your work before you play.
  7. You will get more freedom as you show more responsibility.
  8. You will obey your parents; quickly, completely, and joyfully
  9. You will treat others kindly according to the golden rule.
  10. You will limit your actions according to the environment.
  11.  You will be generous with your time and possessions
  12.  You will be courageous in your attempts
  13.  You will engage in constructive activities when you have idle time on your hands
  14.   You will use the computer for production, instruction, or communication (except for the one hour of electronic entertainment per day.)
  15.  You will not expect equal shares or fairness
  16.  You will disciple yourself to follow these principles or be disciplined by someone else.

Resources for today's show

Episode-66- Seven Reasons to Have Family Integrated Worship

On any given Sunday morning in churches across America the family is segregated into different worship services.  Typically, if the children are in the "adult worship service" at all it is only for the first part where there is a lot of singing and then they are dismissed to "children's church".  In some churches the children are not in the "adult worship service" at all.  I believe that this is the exact opposite of what needs to be done if we are going to leave a spiritual legacy.  So in this show I briefly discuss seven reason why the children should be with the adults during worship.  If you want to raise children who love the Lord and Love to worship God you don't want to miss this episode.

Resources for this show

Episode-60- 6 Conflict Areas in Marriage and What to Do with Them

As is mentioned repeatedly on The Legacy Podcast, a strong marriage is crucial in building a multi-generational legacy of abundance.  Unfortunately, marriages do not come without difficulties or problem.  Join me for today's show as I address 6 of the biggest problems in marriage and some solutions.  Here is the outline:

1) Communication

  • Problem: Difference between men and women
    • Typically women need to communicate more with words
    • Typically women are more emotion in communication
  • Communicate: no one can read your mind
    • Don’t assume: Makes an Ass out of You and Me
  • Consider the other person:
    • If you are the one who likes to communicate get to the point
    • If you are the silent type open up
  • Consider how you communicate your feelings
    • You.....
    • Always....never...
    • Instead use I feel....

2) Money

  • Problem: Different approach to money
    • usually one is more of a money cruncher than the other
    • Dave Ramsey calls this nerd and free spirit
  • Another problem is different priorities
    • The wife may want to go out to eat more and the husband may want to spend more on hunting equipment.
  • Usually the man is more interested in return and the women is more interested in security.
  • Solution is the Budget
    • This serves as an agreement, a map, so there can be unity.
    • Ask how important an issue is on a scale of 1-10 (not everything can be a 10.)

3) Sex

  • Problems of difference in desire
    • Usually but not always the husband has a higher desire than the wife.
    • It is easier for the low desire to rise to the high desire than vice versa
    • It is possible to develop to the point of loosing this difference
    • Solution: 1 Cor 7:1-4. Do what you need to do.  Do it with all your heart.
  • Problem of difference in what is wanted
    • The male and female bodies are different and respond differently to different things.  It is important to learn what your spouse likes and do that.  This may not always be the same things either
    • If you do to your spouse what you want it may not be what he she likes best.
    • light versus no light
    • learn to compromise: not this time but next time.  Trade offs.
  • Problem of difference in trying something new
    • Usually one wants to be more creative than the other.
    • My position: Nothing is off limits as long as it does not violate the Scriptures or is forced upon the other.
    • The one who wants is more creative: be satisfied and savor what you do get
    • The one who is less creative: take little steps in creativity.

4) Third Party (Inlaws)

  • Problem: too much interference from inlaws
    • Adult child support
    • Looking to parents rather than spouse to meet need
    • Ask spouse before going to parents
  • Problem: comparison
    • Wives have a tendency to compare their husbands to their dads
    • Husbands have a tendency to compare their wives to their mothers
    • Christian comedian Tim Hawkins “things you don’t say to your wife”, something about the cooking not being like moms
    • Just don’t do it.  Either way you are showing disrespect.
  • Problem: unwanted advice
    • This is usually a problem of mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws.
    • Don’t take it personally
    • If gets really bad the husband needs to protect his wife.

5) Children

  • Differences in how many
    • Should be determined by God
  • Differences in how often
    • Should be determined by God
  • Difference schooling
    • Should be homeschooled
  • Differences in discipline
    • usually one is more lenient than the other
    • Have agreed upon standards
    • One is usually more consistent then the other
      • Be consistent
    • Don’t let the kids play one off the other.

6) Expectations

  • Expectation that your spouse will meet all your needs
    • Only God can do that.
  • You can change your spouse
    • You can influence him or her but not change her.
    • 1Pe 3:1-2 NKJV - [1] Wives, likewise, [be] submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, [2] when they observe your chaste conduct [accompanied] by fear.
    • Only God can really change the heart of someone


Resources for today's show

Episode-57- Time Management

We are only given so much time in this life in which to build a legacy which means that we need to make the most of every moment.  In this episode I share some tips and principles that I have learned about time management.  The most important time management principle is knowing what activities fall into which category in the Time Management Chart.

Time Management chart

Other time management principles

  • Have a task or to do list
  • Touch it once
  • Do the most difficult thing first
  • Have and refer to long term goals often

Resources for today's show

Episode-54- Teaching Your Kids to Work

In order achieve a multi-generational legacy of abundance it takes a lot of work from each generation.  In this episode I talk about 8 principles that can help teach your kids to work.  I first discuss some reasons why it is important to pass on a strong work ethic and then the 8 principles.  Here are the 8 principles that are discussed:

  1. Model It
  2. Assign work by task not time
  3. Assign work that matters most of the time
  4. Clearly communicate the task
  5. Pay them for production
  6. Restrict other options
  7. Encourage them in the work
  8. Inspect what you expect

Resources for today's show

Episode-50- Interview with Eli Jones about Courtship

In this show you will hear an interview with Eli Jones. I had the privilege of residing over the marriage of Eli and Allison a few years back and was impressed with the process of courtship that they went through.  As a result, I wanted to bring him on TLP to talk about courtship.  We dialogue around the following questions:

  • Tell me a little about yourself and your family
  • What is courtship?
  • How does it differ from dating?
  • Why did you choose to court rather than date?
  • What did you learn in the process of your courtship about the courtship that you didn't know before you started?
  • What advice would you give to the parents that are listening who have preteen or teenage children who are wanting to date?
  • What websites, organization, ministries, etc. do you recommend for further study on courtship?
  • What advice would you give to the single man or woman who came to the idea of courtship late in life and are now living on their own but want to do courtship rather than dating?

Resources for today's show


Episode-49- Interview with Doug Pruiett

In this episode I interview Doug Pruiett who has recently started a family business.  I interview him on why and how he started his business with the hope to inspire others to start a family business where the next generation can be discipled, learn a trade, and contribute to society and the church.

Pruiett and Sons is a “father and sons” business that hand-crafts farm-style dining tables, benches, coffee tables, and more.
Doug spent seventeen years as an aerospace engineer at Cape Canaveral, working in the design and testing of long-range nuclear missiles.
In 1996 He went into full-time Christian work as a missionary, then pastor, and now an assistant VP of information technology for a Good News Jail and Prison Ministry.
He has always maintained his engineering interests and work in his Christian assignments.  “My sons and I were taught the building and carpentry trades by a master-carpenter for over five years. One of my first lessons was that buildings (and most other things) do not require aerospace tolerances. Once I quit using a micrometer on everything, I began to build some nice things in a reasonable amount of time.”

Resources for today's show



Episode-48- A Good Father and His Relationship To His Son, John 5:17-31

In this episode you will hear a message I delivered at Mt. Tabor Baptist Church for Father's Day from John 5:17-31 on A Good Father and His Relationship to His Son.  The outline is as follows:

  • A Good Father Works with the Son to Accomplish Their Mission 5:17
  • A Good Father Sets an Example for the Son and the Son Follows It. 5:19-21
  • A Good Father Loves the Son and the Son Loves the Father 5:20
  • A Good Father Delegates Responsibility to the Son and the Son Carries It Out Faithfully 5:22, 26-27
  • A Good Father is Honored and the Son Shares in that Honor 5:23
  • A Good Father Reveals His Will to the Son and the Son Seeks to Do It. 5:30


Episode-46- The Consumer Side of Food Legacy

In this show I talk about the Consumer side of food legacy.  I address 6 considerations for those who are not producing their own food but want to be good stewards of resources
Why this is an important topic?

  1. Not everyone is able to produce significant amounts of their own food.
  2. Someone else had to produce the food you eat

6 Considerations

1. Consider your option

2.Consider the complexity of food production

  • Various terms
  • organic
  • all natural
  • naturally grown
  • grass fed/ grass finished
  • free range
  • cage free
  • humanely treated
  • grain fed
  • non-gmo
  • heirloom
  • Hybrid
  • Hormone free
  • raw vs pasteurized milk
  • no till
  • permaculture
  • sustainable
  • authentic

3. Consider the season and location

4. Consider real cost of the food

5. Consider food preservation

6. Consider the needs of the producer

Resources for More Information

10 Reasons to buy local



039- Interview with Scott Brown

Join me in this episode as I talk with Scott Brown.  Scott T. Brown is the director of the National Center for Family Integrated Churches and elder at Hope Baptist Church in Wake Forest, North Carolina. Scott graduated from California State University in Fullerton with a degree in History and received a Master of Divinity degree from Talbot School of Theology. He gives most of his time to local pastoral ministry, conferences on fatherhood, church reformation, and strengthening the family. He has been married to Deborah for thirty years, and they have four children ages twenty-six, twenty-four, twenty, and seventeen. Scott also helps people think through the two greatest institutions God has provided — the church and the family. He desires to learn what is pleasing to the Lord and to work for continuous reformation of church and family according to Scripture.
In this interview we discuss the following questions:

  1. What trends are you seeing in the church as it relates to the family?
  2. What is the premise of your book A Weed In the Church?  What progress is being made in removing the weed?
  3. How is the message being received in the Christian community?
  4. What role does the sufficiency of Scripture play in the issue?
  5.  How does the NCFIC help the church and family work through this issue?
  6. What recommendation would you give the family out there who wants to leave a multi-generational legacy of faith but is involved in a typical church?

Be sure to learn more about the resources mentioned on this episode, you can find links to them below:

037- Filling your Spouses Love Bank

In this episode I talk about filling your spouses love bank by loving him or her the way he or she wants.  This material is taken from Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages  and Willard F. Harley, Jr.'s book Fall in Love Stay in Love and revised by me.

Here are the 10 desires that people have in marriage.

  1. The Desire for Affection
  2. The Desire for Communication
  3. The Desire for Domestic support
  4. The Desire for Family Support
  5. The Desire for Financial Support
  6. The Desire for Physical Attractiveness
  7. The Desire for Sexual Fulfillment
  8. The Desire for Spiritual Leadership
  9. The Desire for Time together
  10. The Desire for Unexpected Surprises

What to do?

  1. Find out from your spouse what are his or her top 3-4 desires
  2. Communicate your top 3-4 desires
  3. Make a commitment to work at achieving the top 3-4
  4. Seek to be filled with God’s love so that you do not need the love of spouse to give love.

You can Learn more about the 5 love languages here and purchase the book below


You can Learn more about Fall in Love and Stay in Love at the Marriage Builder website and pruchase the book below

If you liked this episode you would also like Episode 5 on having the B.E.S.T. marriage


031- Your Legacy Drawer

In this show we talk about your legacy drawer.  This is a folder, drawer, or some other devise that can hold all your important documents.  I discuss the reasons for having a legacy drawer as well as what to put into the drawer.  You can see a list of most of the items I recommend to include in your legacy file at The legacy Drawer

Be sure to share TLP with your friends on Facebook and Twitter.

030- The Legacy of Jonathan Edwards

Jonathan Edwards is considered the most influential preacher, the greatest thinker, and best theologian American has ever produced.  In this show I talk about the legacy of Jonathan Edwards and 8 qualities I think that were large contributing factors in his ability to leave a legacy.

  1. His model of ministry discipleship
  2. He married well.
  3. Lots of children
  4. Family devotions and instruction
  5. Meditation on the Word of God in solitude
  6. Science from a Biblical Worldview
  7. Emphasis on true spiritual affections
  8. Legacy planning resolutions

see Desiring God for a list of the resolutions

029- Thirteen Reasons to have a Will

About 70% of Americans do not have a will.  74% of parents with minor children do not have wills.  This ought not be.  Legacy builders have wills!  So today's show is a brief look at 13 reasons to acquire and keep up to date your will.  Here are the thirteen reasons to have a will:

  • 1. Property transfer with your direction,
  • 2. Guardian appointment of children by you not the state,
  • 3. Allows differing distributions,
  • 4. Allows for a naming of executor,
  • 5. Can minimize cost and delay of probate
  • 6. Can minimize the estate taxes
  • 7. Delay distributions if needed
  • 8. Bequests can be honored,
  • 9. Business transfer is simpler,
  • 10. Reduces the risk of sibling rivalry,
  • 11. Avoids unnecessary burden on survivors,
  • 12. Allows you to establish domicile,
  • 13. Allows someone else to administer your affairs if you should become unable.

Contact The Legacy Podcast

Steve @ thelegacypodcast dot com